PSB: Allison Daminger, author of What's On Her Mind, in conversation with Paige Connell

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PSB: Boston Edition is excited to welcome Allison Daminger to celebrate the release of her new book, What's On Her Mind. Paige Connell will join Daminger in conversation.

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ABOUT WHAT'S ON HER MIND

The mental labor that keeps families afloat--and why women do most of it

Mothers and fathers use their time differently, with women spending roughly twice as many hours on family labor as men. But what about the gendered differences in the ways women and men think? What's on Her Mind provides an illuminating look at the cognitive labor that families depend on and reveals why this essential aspect of family life is disproportionately handled by women--even in couples that aspire to practice equality.

While most accounts of household labor center on how people use their time, Allison Daminger focuses on a less visible and less easily quantifiable aspect of family life. She introduces readers to the concept of cognitive labor--anticipating, researching, deciding, and following up--and shows how women in different-gender couples do most of this critical work. She argues that cognitive labor has less to do with personality traits--for example, she's type A while he's laid-back--and more to do with learned skills that men and women deploy in distinct ways. Yet not all couples fall into the personality trap. Daminger looks at different-gender couples who achieve a more balanced cognitive allocation while also exploring how queer couples carve out unique relationships to the gender binary.

Drawing on original, in-depth interviews with members of different- and same-gender couples, What's on Her Mind points to new ways of understanding the interplay between who we are as individuals and the cognitive work we do on behalf of our families.

ABOUT THE AUTHORS

Allison Daminger is assistant professor of sociology at the University of Wisconsin–Madison. Her work has been featured in leading publications such as the New York Times, the Guardian, Psychology Today, and the Atlantic.

Paige Connell is a thought leader, speaker, and content creator who connects with millions each month across TikTok and Instagram by sharing candid, relatable content about the realities of modern motherhood, marriage, and career. A working mother of four, she’s known for making the invisible labor of women visible—bringing awareness to the mental load, gender inequity, and the systemic barriers families face. Paige advocates for affordable childcare, paid leave, and workplace policies that support caregivers, helping women not just achieve equity at home, but also in the workforce. Her storytelling and advocacy have been featured by outlets including The Today Show, Good Morning America, Scary Mommy, and more.