Mixed Race Experience in Celeste Ng's EVERYTHING I NEVER TOLD YOU
Not many characters in literature look like me. Half Chinese and half white, I'm used to reading about people who could occupy one half of my family tree, but rarely about the person who emerges where their branches join. I'm speaking about the mixed race experience: complex, elusive, and with a racial identity wholly separate from either person who birthed and raised you.
Ng could have stopped there, centering her book around this "us versus them" opposition. But she's after something far richer and murkier: the way that race informs James and Marilyn's own perceptions of each other. In fact, race informs the very reasons for their attraction. James, the son of a poor immigrant "paper son," longs to finally be indistinguishable from his fellow white Americans. He chooses Marilyn precisely because she blends in so effortlessly with the white culture around them. Little does he know that Marilyn wants just the opposite for herself-- to stand out as a rare woman in science. She wants to be a doctor, while James privately vows never to let her "hands harden" from work. Marilyn thinks he understands her in "what it's like to be different," but that sensation is exactly what James wants to shed for good.
Think about the children. Think, in other words, about someone like me. What does a child inherit from such parents? From such a world?
The Lee children are caught in a war that their parents don't know they're waging. James' and Marilyn's incorrect beliefs about one another result in conflicted guidance for their kids: Stand out. Blend in. Be defiant. Be liked. What's amazing-- the novel seems to say-- is how false beliefs about our own family members can flow as naturally through us as water. They do not impede our ability to love a person. But they can cause very real moments of distance and pain, felt most acutely here by Lydia, with tense and ultimately devastating consequences.
The Lee children suffer some of the explicit other-izing that James and Marilyn do. But their experiences are more slippery, and more complexly transfigured. "Chinese?" a stranger says to them in a grocery store, tugging the corners of his eyes. I hear questions like this one just about every month. My biracial identity has taught me that appearances matter; people like me can be treated as walking games of Guess That Race. I've been called a "hybrid," a "Scandinasian," and "the best/worst of both worlds" by perfect strangers. And people do this from all across the political spectrum. Some conservatives say we're "not right," and some progressives claim we're poster children for supposed racial harmony. And we are praised for evidence of our whiteness-- for Lydia, her improbable blue eyes; for me, my curly "white woman's" hair.
Ng's novel takes place in 1971, but its ideas are no less urgent today. Data culled from dating websites show that many people feel strongly about what race of person they would like to date and not. The trends are appallingly clear. Attraction-- and how we choose our lifelong partners-- may be one of the last remaining societal realms in which people openly and regularly express racial preference.
And so racial assumptions are with us, from the very beginning of love. And as love deepens we might carry forth these ideas-- through years of marriage, getting older, and having children with perspectives of their own. Ng's novel explores how racial misconceptions can leave a family trapped, but also how such a family can exquisitely transcend them. It's a harrowing depiction of rampant social forces at work in even our most intimate relationships.
Sonya Larson (she/her) joined GrubStreet in 2005, and helped to grow the organization from offering 80 classes a year to over 600. Since then she has managed GrubStreet's many and proliferating programs, and served as Program Director for several years.
Now, as the Director of the Muse and Advocacy, Sonya oversees the staff, organization, sponsorship, and execution of GrubStreet's annual conference of 800+ writers, guest authors, literary agents, editors, and publishing innovators. She also spearheads Grub's efforts to expand access to classes and services for writers of historically marginalized backgrounds. Sonya also represents GrubStreet at conferences nationwide, including AWP, the Bread Loaf Writers' Conference, and Book Expo America.
Sonya's short fiction and nonfiction has appeared in The Best American Short Stories, Ploughshares, American Short Fiction, Kenyon Reivew, The American Literary Review, Poets & Writers, The Writer's Chronicle, Audible.com, West Branch, Salamander, Memorious, Solstice: A Magazine of Diverse Voices, Del Sol Review, The Red Mountain Review, and The Hub. She has received awards and honors from the National Endowment for the Arts in 2020, Best American Short Stories 2017 and 2015, the Pushcart Prize, Glimmer Train, Meridian, Salamander, the American Literary Review, the Bread Loaf Writers' Conference, and the University of Wisconsin-Madison. She is at work on a novel.
Sonya received her B.A. from the University of Wisconsin-Madison, where she served as editor of The Madison Review, and her MFA in fiction from the Program for Writers at Warren Wilson College.See other articles by Sonya Larson